Healing through Forgiveness
It is not surprising that many people who have been seriously hurt in some way have a strong reaction to the idea of forgiveness. For people who have serious wounds and deep pain, forgiveness is an important part of a healing process. Forgiveness is not something “given” to the one who caused harm, but a process that decreases a wounded person’s pain and suffering. The injurer may or may not be around anymore, but the wounds persist, causing more pain.
Forgiveness is a process in which injured people change their thoughts, feelings, and behaviors in order to heal and live less painful, healthier, and more satisfying lives.
It is important to remember, then, that forgiveness is a process to help the injured person. To refuse to engage in the process of forgiveness may be like saying, “I refuse to heal.”